The Mating Ritual.

After years and years of failed, unsuccessful so called relationships...

dealing with sucky non-gentle guys... lame flirtings... corny dates...

it got me thinking...

Why can't relationship be as easy as a snap of a finger?

Why can't it be as easy as coming up to that person and say:

"I'm interested in you... we're good together... do u want to try US out and see whether it works out or not?"

But NO!

We have to go through all of those steps...

From putting all of those efforts on diets, gyms, dressing up, make-ups, shopping to look good.

The 5-seconds eye contact rule.

Pulling up the courage to come up to someone.

The flirting.

Giving hints here and there.

The hassle of getting someone's phone number (BB Pin/Facebook, etc).

The butterflies and rainbows.

Months of getting to know each other.

Months of not being yourself...

Until the dreaded day came...

the rejections.

crying for days.

pathetically staring at your phone, checking every 3-minutes interval to see whether he/she calls/text or not.

months of lonely nights.

weight gain over dozens of chocolates to mend the broken heart.

thousands of phone calls to ur girl-friends seeking for emotional pep-talks that seem to not make anything better.

mending your wound by other demeaning "means" that you can think of.

thoughts of suicide, plastic surgery, murder, and other unthinkable things a broken soul's could imagine.

Until we're back to the beginning... back to Square 1...

where we finally managed a way to be accustom to that pain, that dissapointment, that self-loathing...

which we eventually ignore,

bounce back,

and become the happy-chappy that we are.

Until another new interesting stranger perturbed into our "new beginning"

give us all of these false hopes... promising promises... artificial happiness...

and we're foolish enough to believe them and made our hearts susceptible to destruction again.

and thus...

the cycle repeats itself.

And yet, after all of those bitter endings...

the thrill of the chase...

the thrill of being chased, playing hard to get...

the art of flirting...

Secretly we like the torture, the hassle...

we look for that pain...

we long for that emotional turmoil...

In the end... we're all lovefools.

We demand that intense interaction... that electric chemistry... that thrill.

Let me explain in a biologist point of view...

in order for evolutionary process to continue, the following requirements need to be meet:

genetic relatedness (r) x benefit (b) > cost (c)

The genetic relatedness would make sense, since when you love someone and you marry that person, u'll most probably ended up passing on your genes through your children. (at least, that's the generalized kindergarten-rated idea)

As for the benefit has to be BIGGER than the cost would probably explain why we love to go through the pain and the heartbreaks over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again...

it's because the "benefits" of having that someone, might actually be bigger and better than the pain.

Come to think of it... after ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL of the crap that we've been through...

that 'someone' better step up to the plate and it better be great, or I demand my money back, thank you very much.

It's all in the shoes

Spent 2 hours in Borders yesterday, a thing that I've never managed to do anymore.

I just love being in a bookstore... Borders, Barnes and Nobles, Kinokuniya, Times, or even Gramedia. The place just have a certain comforting feel, much like my haven, a place where I can have a piece of mind.

Well other than the free magazine viewing and looking at those cute bookmarks, etc, the thing that I L O V E about Borders, in particular, is the Paperchase products that they sell.

It's like the Dior for stationaries, I guess.

The price is somewhat unreasonable for a piece of book that you're going to tear up and use anyways... the design is minimalist and graphic-y [I know that's not an actual word...] and I guess they use a different quality of paper to make it.

I especially find the 4 Subject Notebooks and the squared black notes that they have usefull and fun to use.

Being a geek, I'm very obsessive-compulsive about my stationaries...

it needs to be the best, it needs to be something that would make me happy using it, it has to be unique, and most of all it's usually colorful. Hahaha...

With class pressure and the stress of daily assignments, we might as well be comfortable enough to use our stationaries that are not boring, which in a way, got us ecstatic to at least having the effort of opening our notebook, right??

Anyways... another thing...

I stumble upon to a self-help book [sadly to say], namely, "Honey, It's All In The Shoes"

it says that choosing a boyfriend is much like choosing the perfect shoes.

You know how one shoes would be too loose, while another one is too tight.

Or that high-end branded shoes that are not very comfortable, yet very costly.

Or another mass production shoes that is comfy, but you're ashamed to be seen in.

Or cute, unique, fashionable shoes, but everybody seem to have it.

Or a sophisticated shoes, but it's hurting your feet.

You'd settle for flip flops, but it's obviously not suitable for more formal outings.

Sneakers are too boyish [for some people, like me]

High-heels are perfect but only comfy for so long

Flats, wedges, fantophels, boots... out of all the ooh so many shoe selections...

which one would you wear the most? which one's you love the most?

I just think it's a smart analogy...

Where's your moustache?

Starstudedness always got me ecstatic.

ie. Vanity Fair spread or the new Jay Z's v-clip featuring Rihanna and Kanye West Run This Town.

I remember, growing up, I got excited everytime I see the Got Milk? ads in magazines.

First, it's because I couldn't get through a day without, yes, MILK.

It has always been my number one preference... I love creamy, dairy stuffs.

Plus, I just love it when celebrities gather up, especially for a good cause.

Here are some of the ads that I've gathered through the power of Google...

Even Garfield does it!

Hmm... I wonder what Robert Pattinson's ad would be like if he does this? (Vampire... drinking milk... get it??)

The ad started a while back and eventually became an international phenomena.

Everybody knows about it and soon "got milk?" became a famous catch-phrase in the urban community.

They have advanced their catchphrases to not only that, but also "milk your diet" and "body by milk"

Also check out the I'd Rather Go Naked Than Wear Fur by PeTA!

OOh... and here's some interesting fact from the Got Milk? ad.

80 calories, 0 grams of fat

30% Calcium:Helps build and maintain strong bones and teeth; reduces the risk of stress fractures and osteoporosis. Plays a role in promoting normal blood pressure.

25% Vitamin D: Promotes the absorption of calcium for healthy bones. Maintains normal blood levels of calcium and phosphorus.

20% Phosphorus: Works with calcium and vitamin D to help keep bones strong.

20% Riboflavin: Helps convert food into energy. Plays a vital role in the development of the nervous system.

16% Protein: Helps build and maintain lean muscle; the high-quality protein in milk contains all of the essential amino acids (the building blocks for protein).

13% Vitamin B-12: Works closely with folate to make red blood cells. Helps maintain the central nervous system.

11% Potassium: Helps regulate the balance of fluids in your body. Plays a role in maintaining normal blood pressure.

10% Vitamin A: Supports good vision, healthy skin and maintains integrity of immune system.

10% Niacin (niacin equivalents): Helps enzymes function normally in your body.

So go ahead! Drink up those milk, people.

British Invasion

I have been swept away by British blokes.

They have a certain charm intact that makes you weak on your knees.

From the way they talk, the way they present themselves...

I always thought British guys are superiorly well-groomed and are THE perfect gentlemen.

I don't know if it's just me since I grow up watching this guy...the ultimate charmer...

In a way... by watching Bond... James Bond...

I have been programmed to make him the template for the perfect guy should be like...

charming. cunning. flirty yet sophisticated. a pure sincere gentlemen.

Well... in conclusion... I just adore British men.

They're on top of my list (if only I have a 'list'...)

Plus... I always thought they're famous because of their pure talent first... not because of their looks...

Here are a few more of British blokes who take my breath away...

Hugh Grant

The GOD of Chickflicks...

he starred in almost every feel good romantic comedy that I love.

Two Weeks Notice. Notting Hill. Music & Lyrics. Bridget Jones Diary. About A Boy. Love Actually. Sense and Sensibility.

James Morrison

What can I say about this guy?

Everybody who knows me can figure how I L O V E him!

His musics are my saviour...

his voice is just one-of-a-kind...

combine it ultimately becomes a soothing concoction for the broken hearted.

Jamie Cullum

Aaah... the love affair between a boy, his piano, and Jazz.

Name any song of his that I don't love... none!

His songs are witty and real.

You can't help to smile, listening to his honest lyrics.

Jamie Oliver

A talented cook who always bring creative mouth-watering cuisines.

It's always fun to watch him cook.

Like my friend use to say, "He's good with his hands..."

I just love this picture because he poses with my favourite car... VW Beetle.

Jude Law

I just love him in Alfie.

He's a natural womanizer!

Jim Sturgess

A new addition to my so called 'list'...

You can see him in 21. Across The Universe. The Other Boleyn Girl. and a new movie that I've just watched... Crossing Over.

Beautiful voice and comes with a grungy style, yet cute.

Don't you just want to eat him up?

Jason Statham

Okay I have to admit that this one is just pure lust.

Gotta admire the toned six packs, man!

You've Got Mail

The tagline says it all don't you think?

Someone you pass on the street...

someone standing behind you in the grocery store...

someone whose in the same bus with you...

the florist you pass by everyday...

someone in you own apartment even...

a perfect stranger that you encounter with every single day or is THAT close within your radar

without even realizing that that person

may already be the love of your life.

Out of 6 billion people in the world, how do we know which one is THE ONE?

How do we even meet that person out of all the possibilities?

It's mindblogging how love and faith works.

This movie got me thinking...

what if the person you've already choose to settle with is not right for you?

Rather, a random stranger that you meet over the internet or your worst enemy or someone that you've judged poorly...

is the person you've actually been looking for.

How should we ever figure it out?

Does true love or soulmate truly exist?

A married couple could hate each other's gut, argue everytime they're in the same room, a complete opposite of one another...

and yet they've managed to stay married for 30 years and have 3 kids.

Is marrying someone completely different from you, a good thing? Or better to marry someone safe, someone who has the same personality and interest as you?

Should a marriage based on lies and denials?

Is it right to vow living with the same person "in sickness and in health as long as they both shall live"? What happen to that vow when two people realized that they're not right for each other? When they found someone else?

What is a soulmate?

"Like an apple hanging from a tree... I pick the ripest one... I still got the seed..."

(Katy Perry's Thinking of You)

You choose your own poisson!

So go ahead... choose your fruit...

even the most perfect person in the world,

someone who is totally your type...

it is only human for us to eventually pinpoint their imperfections.

That's just the ramifications of getting to know someone.

"Love is not about being with someone perfect,

instead it is about accepting someone's imperfections."

Okay, I've talked too much already...

A brief review about the movie (the main reason I write this post)...

Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks form a perfect duo and made this feel-good romantic comedy a classic worth watching.

It's about two strangers who crosses paths in the cyberworld,

becomes best friends over the internet by exchanging trifling emails,

and eventually realize that this person on the other side of the computer is the one that they suppose to be with.

Whereas, in the real world, Joe Fox and Kathleen Kelly are business rivals.

Joe is opening a bookstore chain around the block, threatening the survival of Kathleen's children bookstore left by her mother.

A series of events lead these two people to unravel their alternate identity, Shopgirl and NYC152.

A remake of the 1940's The Shop Around The Corner (which apparently is the name of Kathleen's bookstore). Set in Manhattan's Upper West Side. Directed by Nora Ephron.

I think Hollywood should make this kind of movie more often...